Hello – Kasi here. I read something recently that I’ve been finding kind of useful so I thought I’d share it this week.
This is actually from two different sources, but I’ve combined it into one mantra and I like it. It’s been useful for when I start to get anxious, upset, or worried. I calm myself down and repeat to myself, “Just for today I won’t worry. Just for today I won’t get angry. Just for today I will judge nothing that happens.”
The beauty of this is that I often feel like I have an obligation to worry. Otherwise, how am I ever going to solve any of my problems? This is kind of like the Scarlett O’Hara declaration: “I’ll think about it tomorrow.” Of course, you can’t solve anything by putting it off, but I think worry is different. Worry doesn’t solve anything; in fact, it tends to make it harder to sit down and think realistically about the situation and come up with possible solutions. If you believe in the Law of Attraction, you could argue that worrying actually makes the situation worse, because you’re focusing on bad stuff, which draws more bad stuff.
Now, of course the first thing I did after I started this was to get angry about something stupid. When I remembered the mantra I of course started judging myself for having gotten angry. So I had to give up being angry at the situation and then I had to give up judging myself for being angry.
I know it might sound simplistic or overly optimistic. But giving yourself permission to not worry or get angry can be a good technique to separate your emotional reactions from logic. When you take out the emotion it’s easier to find options and solutions.
Thanks for putting up with my philosophical ramblings again. I hope everyone is having a happy September!