What do you look for in a Dom Character? Righeous Perverts Blog Hop

3 Jul

Perverts-Playtime-BH-2013

 

Good morning all-

 

Today we are participating in the Righteous Perverts Blog hop, so be sure to check out the other blogs listed at the end of this post. There are sure to be some fascinating thoughts and some great giveaways so don’t miss out. Today I want to get your feedback on what you look for in a dominant character. The reason I ask this relates to a few things that happened at RomCon a few weeks ago.

As many of you who have met me know, I like to talk. I know, shocking, lol. Anyway, when we (kasi, Treena, eva and I) attend conferences we try and make the most of them by being involved in as many events, panels, social functions as humanly possible. Being the extrovert of the group I talk with anyone who will stand still long enough or who isn’t running faster than I am :).

Since we write about BDSM, polyamory and power exchange relationships we generally try and present an image that will help people remember us and maybe be tempted to check out one or more of our books. I almost always wear leather pants, the ladies often wear corsets and we have babs, our street team mascot with us. For those of you who haven’t met Babs yet, she is a stuffed bunny that I have put a nice shibari rope dress on and she has a beautiful chainmail collar. babs is always very popular.

 

Back to the point of this blog, while talking with fans, bloggers, readers and other authors at the event I had a couple of comments made to me that got me to thinking. One comment was from a wonderful lady who has supported us from the beginning, she has seen us speak at several cons and always takes the time to share some thoughts with us to help us improve our craft. So, I was sitting with her at the Karaoke event and she made the comment that went something like this “I love your books and come to see you talk whenever I can but you scare the hell out of me.” or maybe it was that our lifestyle scared the hell out of her, it was loud and I may have not heard her correctly. So I joked with her a little, got her a glass of water (I’m a nice guy, really I am) and later that night thought about it trying to figure out what made her feel that way. I always try to have a smile on my face, I try to be very approachable and laugh a lot and just be a nice guy in general.

Then the next day, another author who is a friend of ours and who also lives the BDSM lifestyle was telling me that she had recommended a reader come and talk with me about some BDSM and dominant questions that she had but that the reader was too intimidated by me to come over and talk. Then she said something to the effect that she knew I was a dominant the first time she met me and had trouble looking me in the eyes because of it, she is a submissive normally. Again, these comments took me by surprise. I have had several other people I know make similar comments over the past year or so.

I do identify as a dominant and am a master to kasi and eva but I don’t try to be over the top about it. I have thought about body language, attitude, look, etc… would convey this message to others without my conscious intent to do so? I try and write the dominants in our books to have this something about them that makes the female heroine attracted to them and to be very Domly, if you will but don’t think I have been particularly successful at it so far. So, what have you seen in other authors characters that makes their Dom’s more Domly? I really want to improve my craft and in this genre, that is pretty important.

For your help with this I will provide one of you who comments with a free ebook copy of Double Dom Fantasies to get you ready for our newest release which came out yesterday called Writes of Submission(http://www.bookstrand.com/writes-of-submission). To you, what makes your panties wet and want to fall at the feet of these fantasy Dominant? What traits, look, mannerisms, outlook, whatever it is, I would love to know your thoughts. Thank you for your participation and be sure to check out the others on the blog hop for their thoughts and giveaways!!!

Ok, apparently I am not smart enough to get the link thing to work so if you’ll go here you can see all of the other blog hop stops. http://kinkybookreviews.com/wordpress/perverts-playtime-2013/

 

Thanks again;

Reggie

14 Responses to “What do you look for in a Dom Character? Righeous Perverts Blog Hop”

  1. Tara Rose July 3, 2013 at 12:04 pm #

    It’s esoteric and difficult to explain, Reggie, and I have a feeling it may be an individualized response as well. The Doms I’ve met in real life have a distinct aura about them. A presence, if you will. It’s unmistakable, for me anyway, and maybe because I’m intuitive and submissive by nature I usually pick up on it. In my writing, I try to convey that same aura or presence by the way his voice, his touch, or even a certain look in his eyes evokes a response in the heroine . Great question, by the way! 🙂

    • naughtyeverafter July 3, 2013 at 3:15 pm #

      Thanks for the response Tara. I agree it is an elusive quality to point to and say this is it. I try and have my characters have that little sumpin sumpin but haven’t got it right on paper yet. Thanks for participating.

  2. grizzlys4 July 3, 2013 at 12:06 pm #

    Wow! Those are some great questions! Since I’m not in the lifestyle, but an avid reader of BDSM fiction….I don’t know how much my comments would help. I do think I’m pretty submissive…and I would like to explore it…but hubby is not interested although he definitely is the head of the family. So we kind of have that dynamic to an extent. That being said….what makes me go “le sigh” when I read? Well…I definitely love that commanding “tone” when it comes thru from a Dom. Since I’m not at all into anything painful….it’s really the control and commands and loving dominance that gets me. Although I do read all kinds of BDSM and enjoy it, the sadists make me cringe! I do have to say though that I’ve met you IRL and although I can definitely tell you are in charge….I have never felt that in an intimidating way. I always want to make sure I’m respectful…but you made me feel comfortable enough to ask questions and even go out of your way to remember the gift you gave me and make a matching bookmark for me! I hope that helps…..I do love to chat! LOL I hope I can meet up with you all again sometime!!!

    Alisa (Lee)

    • naughtyeverafter July 3, 2013 at 3:17 pm #

      Hey Alisa- I am glad that I didn’t come across as intimidating when we met. I always try and be a fun, positive kind of guy ;). I think you had a great line with “it’s really the control and commands and loving dominance that gets me” because I think that is the heart of the fantasy for many readers. That loving dominance, but it is kind of hard to show the indescribable presence with the written word. I will keep plugging away at it. Thank you for participating.

  3. Cherie Clark July 3, 2013 at 2:05 pm #

    Reggie I have finished Writes of submission and I have to say that I love Kane. Hi fun and the t shirts, but most importantly the way he describes to Nikki how he would help direct her decisions. Strength may intimidate but that is also the fire to this flittery moth. I love reading about Doms that have the Aura about them I dont know how to describe it. I hope you are prepared to be mobbed in Nola by me. Once again LOVED Kane Dante and Nikki’s story.

    • naughtyeverafter July 3, 2013 at 3:21 pm #

      Holy Cow Cherie, you are amazing!! Writes just released yesterday and you have already finished it. I know you know the books as well as we do, so I am going to put you on the spot and ask you if you think our Dom’s are becoming more believable as the books go along or if they are not improving. We value your opinion and don’t want you to pull your punches, it is the only way we can improve our craft. I look forward to the mugging in NOLA from you, lol. Thank you for being such a fantastic supporter, we love you.

  4. Barbara July 3, 2013 at 7:55 pm #

    I like reading about a strong DOM that really cares for his sub(s) and knows how to read/interpret their wants/needs. Often grabs her for…long, hot, possessive, tongue-tangling kisses. I like the way he wants/needs to take care of her. How he patiently teaches her to give him pleasure and in return rewards her by giving her mind numbing O’s…and literally cherishes their relationship. But…isn’t afraid to lay down the law and offer up a little punishment if/when it’s needed as well. 😉
    barbbattaglia @ yahoo.com

  5. Stacey July 4, 2013 at 10:28 am #

    Ms. Tara Rose said it well! THe other thing for me is the voice…there is a tone level and than brings me to my knees! It’s hard to put into words for a book, but between that and just the right look in His eyes i’m a goner 😉

  6. June M. July 6, 2013 at 12:49 am #

    First, I have read and loved many of the books that you write together. I actually like your Doms. They are powerful, yet respectful. That is defintely something that I look for in books (since I do not actually particapte in BDSM, too many trust issues, I guess). I guess If I were to make a list of things that I find sexy in Doms, it would be them being forceful, but never abusive, powerful, intelligent, great communication skills, the ablility to push when needed but never too far. My favorites tend to have husky/deep/rich voices, commanding eyes, their bodies show their pleasure or displeasure, and being playful at times and having a sense of humor is always great (can be twisted). I tend to love it when the speak in choppy sentences for some reason (i.e. I. said. now.) Hope this might have helped (there is a reason though that I am a reader and not a writer, LOL)

    June
    manning_J2004 at yahoo dot com

  7. sherry1969 July 6, 2013 at 2:25 am #

    I love a strong Dom, with a hot body and needs a sense of humor and also knows what his sub needs whether it’s a spanking or just to be held.
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

  8. beckeyw July 6, 2013 at 11:28 am #

    The way they portray themselves it may be a look or a powerful way they act … Demanding in the bedroom but they are affectionate and caring too… (ok, here I go with the fluffies…) They have persona that they know what they want but they aren’t forceful.

    Thanks for being a part of the hop I am going to have to look into reading some of your books (new to me author, one reason I like hops…)

    BeckeyWhiteATgmailDOTcom

  9. Books4me (@BooksForMe2) July 6, 2013 at 4:19 pm #

    Doms that are tough and have high expectations but are also caring and want to talk stuff out area a huge turn on for me!

    books4me67 at ymail dot com

  10. naughtyeverafter July 6, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

    I would like to thank each and every one of you for your input. All of these suggestions have been very helpful and I will try and keep them in mind when writing our Doms. I hope you all have a great holiday weekend.

  11. naughtyeverafter July 8, 2013 at 2:21 pm #

    Congratulations Beckeyw!!! You are the winner of this drawing and I will have kasi send you an ebook copy of Double Dom Fantasies. We hope you enjoy it and the rest of our books. Thank you one and all for your input on this question, it is appreciated.

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