Being Happy

17 Jun

Hi everybody – Kasi here.

So this is another of my wu-wu self-help hippie posts. 🙂 In case you don’t know, I read and think a lot about how to be happy. It might seem like a superficial, selfish kind of thing to think about, especially in light of all the terrible things in the world, but I really think it’s the most important thing you can work on.

Why? Because if you’re miserable, you’re going to make everyone around you miserable. The way I see it, you have two choices: you can get freaked out by every little thing that doesn’t go the way you think it should, or you can learn to deal with the shit that comes up in your world while maintaining your own peace of mind and a sense of contentment.

There’s an excellent book that I talk about a lot. It’s called “The Untethered Soul” by Michael Singer. One section of this book is particularly resonating with me lately. Mr. Singer says that people will say things like, “I want to be happy, but my husband left me,” or “I lost my job,” or whatever. This is saying that the world needs to be a certain way in order for you to be happy.

When you stop to think about it, this means that you can never be happy. Let’s face it; the world (and your life) is never going to be exactly the way you want it to be. It would be like playing Whack-a-Mole: you are always on guard,  watching for the little moles to pop up, hoping for a time when they stop so that you can finally relax and be happy. The problem is those moles never stop. You have to learn to be happy even while you’re dealing with them. It’s a long road to get to that point, but I have faith that it’s possible.

The first step along that road, I think, is to recognize when you’re trying to force things to be a certain way, and to learn to catch that thought: “I could be happy if that happened.” I’ll leave you with my new favorite saying: The cause of all suffering is knowing how things should be.

Take care and be happy!

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